Should You Pay Your Kids for Doing Chores?
It’s hard to argue against the benefits of giving kids chores. But the opinion wars about whether to reward them for it rage on. Here, experts on both sides discuss whether money should ever be on the table…you know, the one you asked your six-year-old to clear an hour ago.
We’re not the ones with the answer to this debate as old as parenting, but here is a summary of both viewpoints, as detailed in this Purewow article:
NO WAY, DON’T PAY…
The consensus from parenting experts is that chores and allowances should be totally separate.
Why? 1) A kid may decide she doesn’t need the money, and thus see no point in doing the work. 2) Receiving an allowance teaches kids how to manage their money, and the difference between wants and needs; it has nothing to do with meeting their inherent obligations to the family. Chores, in other words, are not above and beyond; they’re what’s expected.
….yes, but isn’t EARNING = LEARNING?
Research psychologist Dr. Denise Cummins worries no-strings-attached allowances lead to entitlement.
She warns that kids raised within this system wind up “believing that adults or authorities ought to give them what they want simply because they need or want it.” Personal finance expert Lauren Greutman also believes in paying kids for chores—selectively and on a sliding scale.
Her son gets paid 25 cents for taking out the garbage, for example, but $5 for scrubbing the kitchen floor on his hands and knees. Regular everyday chores like doing the dishes are unpaid, but tasks you could pay a stranger to do are compensated accordingly.