7- “Qui va piano va sano*”

7- “Qui va piano va sano*”

*Italian saying: “He who drives slowly goes far”

You’ve just discovered Family Tasks. You find it at once so simple and yet so powerful: it’s THE system you’ve been looking for–for sooooo long!!!

Taken by a storm of enthusiasm like thousands of parents before you, you rush to implement it in your family. You convince your children to add all the tasks you wished they do without you even asking. They go for it—hooray!!!

So, huge success? Hmm…not so sure.

By going too fast, you risk pushing the envelope too far too fast. If the boat is overloaded, chances are it’ll take water… and sink. You don’t want that to happen, because if you start with a failure, it’ll be way more difficult to go back with another system later.

Time is on your side, so don’t be in a hurry. To start, make sure everyone has one task everyday. At first, younger children may have full days or even weeks that are task-free. Remember that genuine engagement and participation from your children takes time. So give them all the time they need. This system will last until they leave the nest, so it has to be rock solid to last for 10 years or more.

Don’t load the boat in order to maximize your chances of success. Upcoming periodic reassessments will gradually enrich the task list in time to your deserved delight.